I'm gay and I haven't had any trauma or bad childhood experiences related to sex. People still debate it, but I think sexual orientation is mostly decided at birth. There are exceptions to every rule in all of nature, but most gay people are clearly gay from the time they are small children. Ask most gay people and they will say they always knew there was something "different" since they were very little. I knew my cousin was gay from the time he was like 4. He loved dancing and he was so flamboyant. He got a little older (still little) and thought the Backstreet Boys were cute. He was just always gay. And my cousin comes from an incredible family and he's a well adjusted, normal, great kid (now in college). Sexual trauma can certainly cause confusion and intimacy issues, but it doesn't make people gay.