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Originally Posted by velcro003
I work with children, and there definitely are children that I get more attached to than others for various reasons. Is this similar to how it is for therapist's? Its easy stuff for kids, though. Like I instantly love the smaller/petite kids because I'm small...or the cuddlers, because I love kid cuddling! The business I work with is for more well-off individuals, so we don't see many behavioral issues. That would make it harder I think to empathize.
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its very similar...i currently work with adults, but ive also worked a lot with children. when i worked in an RTF with kids, i certainly had my favorites. im drawn to very smart kids who are more than a little sarcastic
you'd be surprised how many kids fit that bill!! even with the "behavioral problem" kids, i became attached to many of them! there was one girl who was 12 and bipolar and had a temper on her! but, to this day, she was my absolute favorite....i guess she would be like 20 now! (gawd, im old! lol)
i think its the same with adults...when our personalities mesh well, they become favorites.
i think countertransference is very important...especially when its negative! sometimes that is indicating that youre seeing something in yourself reflected, and you dont like it. and other times its a reminder of people with whom youve had negative interactions. but either way, its a great discussion to have. because if the therapist is feeling this way towards the client, the chances are that he/she is not the first person to feel that way.