helping a friend get on her financial feet after divorce. i had friends help me after a diviorce so wanted to "pay it forward". i agreed the first 6 months plus one free month for her to pay me all total $400/mo. (she has about 1500 sq.ft. my personal living area is the same footage.) she said that was all she could afford. she eats out everyday with friends and plays as much if not more than she works. she's an independent contractor so makes her own hours.
i don't like to have a resentment. but that is how i feel. because i thought that was all she could pay i agreed. now all this socializing, spending money, having a savings account i am of the impression i am being used. rant, rant.
of course i have an out. raising her rent when her lease with me is up in august. there's no way she could find a better deal tho even if i raise her rent. a bedroom/bath rental here goes for $550 and up. here she has 2 bedrooms,bath and living room area of her own. she's a balker so don't think the discussion re upping the rent will go smoothly. worry, worry. i can have a sharp fuse myself but only when there's not a willingness to meet me halfway. don't want this to make me feel uncomfortable but know it will. any suggestions re how i can get thru this upping her rent and not feeling like i'm the bad guy? a way to present to her that i'm upping the rent and not feeling badly? intellectually i know i'm not the bad guy but already know her reaction will make me feel uncomfortable anyway. in her life she's always allowed others to carry her in some way, mother, brothers, ex-husband. i was of the impression from her she wanted to stand on her own 2 feet now, start a new beginning as i did once. seems like i'm contributing to is her worry free life, too. feel lied to and used.
i can live indepentantly BTW. guess i'm sad re what's going on. mad at myself for believing her. shot myself in my own foot again.
any suggestions would be appreciated.