I constantly struggle with thinking I'm too attached to my T. And I also worry that she makes herself overly available to me.

I've been seeing her for a year and a half and in the beginning she always said I could call as much as I liked. However, as I'm not much of a talker we have found that texting works much better for me. She encourages that I text as often as I want/need to even when she's on vacation.

When I want more than one appointment in a week, she encourages me to reach out to her and 90% of the time we find some time.

Also, it takes me a while to trust and week to week I struggle with being comfortable with her, so now we do 90 minute sessions, which has helped tremendously.

I think she believes that the more I reach out to her and that she can be available, the better I feel. Not just short term, but long term, with other people.

So I try, really try not to judge how much I need her, and how much I think of her, and how much I obsess in between sessions. In fact, 'allowing' a simple text gives me great relief and I tend to obsess alot less.

Her approach is so different than what I've experienced in the past, and I think it's working. I find that even though I still struggle it's a lot less than before. And I even have really good periods. It's also great to have someone be there for me, especially when the timing of my implosion doesn't coincide with my weekly appointment time.

So I guess my message is, if possible allow yourself to attach, talk about it with your T and over time it does get better. My opinion is if your T isn't supportive and comfortable with this aspect of the relationship, then I would move on. Just my 10 cents though, and every relationship is different.