sounds like a plan. i always nap when she is at work, so i don't feel like i'm depriving us of "together time", but it still rubs her the wrong way. usually if she wants to go do something, i usually just go to avoid arguing about it & still having to go. i really don't know why she would want me to go when i don't want to, & i'm going to be in a bad mood the whole time. but that's another thread