I had another thought, imagine that! I learned a long time ago from people who loved me that accepting goods, money etc from people we despise is not bad. We do what we need to do to survive. If you have to go to the parental home do not ever leave the kids with family members. You can be polite and make up stuff. If you need their help right now why the heck not? It doesn't pay you back from the abuse etc but you can use them as you were used and it doesn't make you bad. I hope this makes sense. Peace to you.