Well maybe the Byz is a little amused, I hope so. He does know that threads often take on a life of their own.

I will have to read the search here tomarrow.

I do understand that there was a happy ending to the statement in the thread. And that a woman was forgiven. My point is that one can forgive but there will always be scars when one is wounded. She may feel she was forgiven, but she has infected the relationship with doubt. Ofcourse one could say that any relationship has doubt, but when doubt turns to reality it is very hard to repair. Though one may forgive they never really forget, and there is a scar that one cannot wish away, it is always there.

For those moments of pleasure, if one returns to a marriage, is it really worth the risk? And what if someone realizes that they made a big mistake, but they still did it.
It is just not healthy for a relationship it puts something in the middle.

I have read about the difference sex is for men and women, many women, not all and there are always exceptions. Women make love and it means love, it is not always the same for a man. So some men truely feel that it is nothing more than a release and can still love their mate. And there have been many men in the past that were raised to feel that it is ok to have a marriage and still have other women.

My husband's grandfather had a wife and girlfriends and it was a given back then.
He had one of his women live above his family and they all knew. It must have been a strange feeling for the wife. By listening to my husband's mother it was hard for her to understand as a child.

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