I belong to a different support group for spouses/significant others of people who are depressed. At risk of this thread turning into "nobody cares about depressed people", let me say that many SOs are making themselves crazy with worry. It is a very helpless feeling to watch someone you love be stuck in depression. I hope that your family can learn to understand and support you. I have read a number of books about it, but most of them are from the perspective of someone (like me) who wants to help but doesn't know how.