Hiya Squirrel,

I have major trust issues with doctors (had twelve surgeries growing up). There was a point in time where I was seeing my old pdoc even though I had to drive 8 hours there and 8 hours back! That's a little extreme but I first of all was having trouble finding a good pdoc closer, despite living in L.A. county at the time. (I now live in San Diego and am still having trouble finding a good one). I always thought the bigger the city the more docs and good ones, especially as I live near a prestigious university. Anyhow, I think so long as your pdoc knows then it's not a problem. I was so deep in my issues that I couldn't just randomly reach out and trust another pdoc even if I found one. I ended up in the psych ward (three in a row actually) and found a good one through the hospital.

One thing I would challenge you to do, as I challenged myself during that time, was to look at my codependancy issues. After living in L.A. county for a couple years almost the whole time seeing the pdoc in Santa Cruz I split from my husband. I ended up moving back to where my pdoc was. I think her being there was a huge reason for me moving back to that area alone instead of closer by my family.

Anyway, give it some thought and be honest. What are you paying your pdoc for if you can't be honest with him?

Love and hugs,
Tara