Thanks for taking the time to reply to me. If I were to go that route I would end up living in poverty. I live in a very nice house and area. True I would get relief of not living with him, but my kids would suffer the shock of being deprived of the house and way of life they're used to. It would be hard for me to prove he married this woman and it wasn't done legally, plus she lives in the U.S. and I live in Canada. I don't even know her name or what city she lives in. I don't have friends or family to live with - no one IRL knows about this. I don't mind living in poverty once my kids are old enough to support themselves. I'm also afraid of what he would if I did leave and I don't want to traumatize my kids by going to a womens shelter. Sadly now it's a question of who's going to outlive the other - pathetic sounding I know. Thanks for trying to help. Strangely I have great answers for other people but not my own. One day I'm going to write a book about this.