Everything you said makes sense but I have to consider it very carefully. We went through personal bankrupcy a year and a half ago and have been scrimping to save this house so he wouldn't be able to keep this house going and support his own living dwelling too, which would mean selling this house and renting. No banks would give me or us a mortgage to get a smaller house for me and the girls. At that point we would end up in public housing which would be a culture shock for the girls. I don't want to become enemies because I have enough comon sense to not want to deprive my girls of contact with their father, just because I don't like him. Right now we're living month to month. We're business owners and if I drag this out publically it would be financial suicide and we would be poverty stricken. I appreciate you trying to help and I wish I could follow your advice. This is why I rarely talk about this because I'm basically forzen in place, watching the years go by - I'm like a bird living in a gold gilded cage....what a beautiful dwelling but it's still a prison. Amazing I manage to contend with this. So depressing sounding but I won't admit defeat.