My boyfriend of 14 months wants to get married, as do I. We are both in our late 40's and divorced with a teenager each at home. Anyway, he got me all fired up and excited about 3 weeks ago by memorizing my ring size, tearing out a room to create a closet for me, telling me I needed to design the bathroom remodel, looking at pools for the backyard and talking about where to get married. He said it was too late for me to be a June bride and asked what month I wanted to get married. I said not January because he got divorced on his birthday and we laughed about that and never went back to "when". As you can guess, the last week or so he hasn't said a thing. He's told one son but not the one at home or another who lives out of town. Said he needed a couple of weeks to do that. He's still working on the closet but nothing else has been mentioned. I want to talk about this stuff! Will I be married this year or next? Was he just thinking out loud and then reality set in? Or am I being totally insecure?

I read guys want the space to do things on their own time and will balk if they feel pressured. I would like to know if he's still as anxious as he sounded at first or if he's slowing things down. Am I jumping the gun thinking all this just because we haven't talked about an actual wedding in a couple of weeks? None of my friends are in happy relationships so I don't want to discuss with them but it's all I think about and I need to get back to a life instead of freaking out!