Thanks, I'm home now, and 5 minutes after she dropped me home she called me AGAIN to talk to her until she got home. I feel bad to get overly nasty about it (which to get it through her head you really have to do, she doesn't quite get what 'I'm f****** tired, I want to go home, I don't give a s*** about toy shopping, don't invite me again' means.
She got $1,000 worth of toys for her 5 year old daughter for christmas, some of which will be bought by other relatives to give to her. When I was a kid I was lucky to one tenth of that, and then had to sit and watch my cousins get presents from their mother, their father, our grandparents and their other grandparents. I didn't know my fathers side of the family, my mother spent most of her money on alcohol, my grandparents had to buy presents for 10 other people too, and my aunties decided not to buy presents for the kids over 13, me being the oldest by 2 years.
Yes I'm in my 20's and don't need toys, but even now I rarely get anything for my birthday or christmas, and christmas and birthdays to me are literally nothing more than still feeling like I am worthless. A symptom of neglect I guess.
I was soooooooooo tired, I told her I was tired before she even came to my house, she will NOT take no for an answer, so she came to my house for 2 hours to help her look through catalogs of toys, then we went shopping for an hour and a half, then we stood around for lay-by for half an hour, then 5 minutes after I get home I get a phone call of 'are you in bed yet? I thought you were going to bed as soon as you got inside, well you can stay on the phone to me then until I get home while you get yourself your drink and stuff' (because I dared to need to take my shoes off and get a drink before going to bed). Yes she was joking around, but she has called me about 4 times today and I am NOT in the mood. AND she will call me tomorrow too.

She has been bullied a lot growing up (I know because we went to school together), and she has a bad reputation for being feral and disgusting and willing to sleep around, so for me to turn around and say back off is hard. I do like her, I just don't need to be called every night (and sometimes 2 or 3 times in a day) to talk about crap that could put anyone to sleep. And she always calls late, 11pm, 12am, to talk for an hour, even if I say I'm in bed about to go to sleep.

Now that I'm saying all this I sound like a complete doormat.