This sounds a little like my situation (20 yr marriage).... to the point that I (we) had to hit rock bottom before we finally decided to dig our own way out.... and in the process we found out that we loved each other, but that we each had issue that kept getting in the way - WE started to work on our self and not the other person.... when you fix you then you can see if you truly belong (or not).

I found that learning how the other side works (male vs. female thinking) helped me to better understand my MAN.... the book for him to understand me (the female) is coming out in May - he will read it then.... we have other books to.
LINK: http://4-womenonly.com/index_flash.aspx

((((((( HUGS )))))))) ~ ~ ((((((( HUGS )))))))

LoVe,
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