Hi Hazel, how long have you been married? How long were you together before the marriage?

Once children come into the picture, splitting up takes on a whole different level of meaning because it's affecting not only you but your family. If you feel that the marriage can be salvaged, and that you can continue on having a healthy and happy relationship with your husband, I suggest you try that avenue. On the other hand, if you're sure that the differences between you and your husband can't be resolved, and your relationship is going to be permanently strained in a way that creates a chaotic or unhealthy environment for the children, then I think it's better to part ways. I think it's better for children to grow up with two separate parents that are living happy fulfilling lives than to grow up with parents who are together but in an unhappy, negative relationship - it affects the children. I can't be sure what is the best in your situation since I don't know much of the history of your relationship.