I understand how frustrating this situation is......my husband was just unable to be a responsible husband & take care of financial issues when it came down to his having to be responsible after I bailed us out the first time.......sad to say, but it wasn't until after my mother died & I got all the inheritance (only child), that I was finally financially able to GET OUT OF TOWN & moved 2100 miles away. I lived with my husband in the same house in different rooms from 1994 until 2007 before I was able to leave. By the end, my anger was so great that I was seeing red every time I talked to him.

I didn't get a divorce because of financial issues & I bought a farm with my inheritance.....so bankruptcy is impossible or I would have to sell my farm.......& splitting the debt would be such a nightmare that doing that in the divorce then filing bankruptcy would also be more than what I want to go through.....so now we are just living in two different ends of the country. I would NEVER want to get married again or even get involved with a guy again......so I really don't care if I'm divorced or not except if my husband would do some stupid financial thing....but he doesn't have any money either.

He informed me one time that when the house finally got some value back in it, that he wanted to sell & move to another state where the cost of living is less & get a smaller house....lol. I informed him that I was still owner on the house & it was OURS & that in the marriage, everything in the marriage would be split up when WE could finally sell the house & it would be the perfect time to get the divorce. He thought I would just give him everything because I LEFT.....like I should have just continued TOLERATING him for the rest of my life (which is what he thought I would continue to do)

Unfortunately in your situation his religion is key to what he is allowed to do & we are supposed to be tolerant of those kinds of things (NOT, it's called being TRAPPED). The sad thing is that all the laws are starting to back those religious practices & the way the laws seem to be going now, they would be backing him & his religious practices & not you unfortunately. If your situation was a better financial one, it would be a good fight to stand up against those religious practices being accepted....but I understand the fact that even if you were to win & get a divorce, you would end up with NOTHING to live on. It is sad when we run through all the possibilities & still come up with the same bad solution at least for awhile. Guess all you can do is look forward to the future when you can escape the situation you are in & hold that as your light to aim for....wish I had a better solution.....but until you have some financial means to go off on your own, there isn't really another solution. You are definitely doing better with your situation than I would have done.....I have a very strong, fighting personality & would NOT be taking the situation as well as you are.....the "ugly" would be coming from me & HE would be the one wanting to "get out".

I wish you the ability to keep up your niceness for the length of time until your girls are old enough to be on their own. I hope in the long run, that your girls will know what has happened in your marriage, so they can make wise choices in their own lives.