The important thing to remember about being a child victim of SA or even a teen etc.

A secret happened because of a child not understanding a situation that made that child feel uncomfortable. A secret kept often for many years. So, in effect that child or even teen was never addressed or comforted. There was no one there that knew and sat with that child and talked it out and gave that child a reason and that it would be ok and they could get on with their life.

That is what YOU are NOW GOING TO DO. YOU ARE GOING TO ADDRESS THAT CHILD AND THAT SECRET. And you are GOING TO DO IT AS A STRONG ADULT. If you came across this in your own child what would you do? You would make sure that child was loved and appreciated and you would take time to encourage that child to BECOME STRONG AND CARRY ON AND YOU WOULD BE THERE TO HELP MAKE THAT HAPPEN. Well, that is what you are doing NOW.

One of the best things for therapy is to be around children, perhaps donate time to the library and read to small children. Read out loud and pick out books about strories that bring strength and charector to an animal or child or charector in a story. Address children as a caring knowing adult. It is good for the soul and you will realize that children are unknowing and they need strong adults to comfort them and help build self esteem. And somewhere you didn't get that and you needed to get that. That is your goal now, becoming a strong person and guiding that child in you and making sure it is comforted and GETS TO EXPERIENCE LIFE, even though something bad happened. You can help that child mourn the experience and also help it MOVE ON. YOU CAN BE THAT STRONG ADULT.

It is not about BECOMING THAT CHILD, it is about ADDRESSING THAT CHILD. Keep that first and foremost.

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