Oh I don`t think it is as deep and profound as you think it is. Yeah having dad issues can make you idealize love and what you think you and the one you are with should be to make things work. It can put too much strain on a relationship to make it work only to prove your fears of abandonment. But you did find a relationship with your husband. You said your own marriage has slowed down and isnt fireworky. When you meet someone new like that yes there is excitement endorphins run. It`s an addicitng high! Any relationship starts off that way even internet ones. Also it has offered a bit of excitement and danger because of you being married. You used a word that really caught my eye. MANIC. Thats what this seems like interent dude really is. No telling how many other women he does this too for the same reason.. he gets a high off of it. Once the excitement begins to wane for him, he looses interest. He`s like a virtual player.. reals you in with his crazy profound words.. you know this kind of guy. I suggest turning to your marriage right now and try to find things to bring the spark back so you wont get bored and curious like this again and make yourself feel bad. Good luck girl!