Hi Marie, I agree with some of the things Harnbrand said - but if I were in your position, I would be furious to have marriage dangled in front of me, and suddenly - nada. You're at a stage in life where you don't want your time wasted. We don't have inifinite chances to start over. You guys know each other pretty well? Does he know that marriage is meaningful to you, that it's important, that you feel you have a right to expect some sense of what your future with him is going to hold?

Of course I'm just an internet stranger - but his behavior sounds insensitive at best, passive-aggressive at worst. It's possible he's freaked out and genuinely confused, or maybe having second thoughts. But if that's the case, HE NEEDS TO TELL YOU. If you guys are best friends, you've got to be able to talk about something as fundamental as whether or not you're you're going to get married! I would not suggest wishin', waitin' and hopin'. It's a fallacy that men don't commit, that this reluctance around relationships is somehow normal behavior. Something like ninety-five percent of Americans are married at some stage of their lives.

You've got a life to lead. Light a fire under your man and get the info you need to make a decision. Good luck!