Can you write it out and give it to her. I just went into some very personal, very embarassing stuff with my t and I was able to write it and have her read it. It helped a lot. I didn't even use the actual words, and neither did she - but we both knew what we were talking about, if that makes sense. For me, being able to write it out was a big thing, and it took some of the scary out of it. The shame was still there, but it's better now a little because I know T knows and still thinks of me in the same caring way. It's worth the risk, but it is a huge risk.