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Old Jul 01, 2011, 03:49 PM
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When being triggerd by someone, its sometimes good to maybe hold ice or run you're arms under cold water for a while.
Give you're self distance from the trigger, take you're self out of the moment and distract you're self somehow.
Ice works for me and cold water on my arms or body (if a bath or shower is close by), if not these, talk to a close friend to get support, get a reflection of why you're angry. Getting a reflection can help vent the pressure caused, someone else see's why you are angry, then maybe they can help (even if its the person who i buy coffee from in my local store).
If you also have it in writing, then re-write it and fill the comments (that trigger), with counter trigger options, e.g- humor, truth, fiction or fantasy; then when you read it you'll see another aproach to whats been said.

Trust being damaged is a hard one to deal with but dont let one persons remarks let you belive what they said. People will say things sometimes, and they dont realise what they said. It could be that 'they' just needed to vent and so they pick a target (i know thats not fair but it happens, it happens to me all the time), but dont let them/him, bring you down.

You are worth way more than someones words of critisism.

I carry a psychological shield, so if someone wants to hurt me they have to get through that first.

Take Care
I hope this helps.
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Thanks for this!
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