Well, I would like to think that the best way is to be equally assertive towards each other. I think an agressive man would be much less satisfying as he would bonk and leave. However the whole experience is much more enjoyable if there was equal affection sexually, before, during and after MAKING LOVE.

The way you are describing sex is SELFISH PLEASURE and the DOMINANT one is less likely to be entertaining in any other aspect of the relationship as that Dominant one would be very self absorbed and EXPECT SERVICE IN EVERY DEMENSION OF THE RELATIONSHIP. Therefore there would truely be NO REAL RELATIONSHIP as a TRUE RELATIONSHIP implies the efforts to RESPECT EACH OTHER MUTUALLY.

This is why many MEN get TURNED OFF BY WOMEN in a relationship. A woman gets tired of BEING FORCED UPON and it feels LIKE A JOB OR DUTY rather than A REAL SEXUAL EXCHANGE OF MUTUAL APPRECIATION OF THE ACT ITSELF. A real quality intellectual spiritually sound woman wants A TRUE MATE, NOT A MAN THAT CONSIDERS SEX AS JUST A FORCED RELIEF FOR HIMSELF. To be honest there is NO REAL INTELLECT IN HOP, BONK, AND LEAVE. NO, the woman NEVER really feels like the MAN in this case is worth the effort at all and the majority of the women that are involved with this kind of man ARE NOT REALLY SATIFIED SEXUALLY.

Ofcourse there is always an exception to every rule, ignorance is bliss so they say.

Oh yes, you were just talking about SEX. MEN THINK SEX, WOMEN THINK MAKING LOVE. At least the majority of the women I talk to AWAY FROM THE EARS OF MEN.

Pleasure does not have to entail dominance at all it can be better attained by a mutual appreciating of SHARING the ACT and assuring that BOTH INVOLVED ARE EQUALLY EXCHANGING AN EXPERIENCE OF PLEASURE. If you want real behind the scenes statistics? MOST MEN ARE LOUSEY LOVERS OR LOUSY AT SEX. And many, many women will agree that MEN DONT REALLY KNOW WHAT THEY ARE DOING AND IT IS USELESS TO THINK THEY DO.

But AGAIN there is always exceptions to the rule, but from what I have heard over the years THEY ARE FEW AND FAR BETWEEN.

I am just presenting the quiet statistics that I have been pivy to. Most women don't tell this to their husbands, or boyfriends or significant others they finally realize it is a waste of time.

And another thing that women do is after they find out what is REAL, they decide the best choice is to choose a mate that has the best stability and perks. They just put up with the rest and play the game of pretend very well.

And then you have those that cheat in a longing for real love and satisfaction, does that exit they wonder? And the frequency of divorce is an indication of something gone amiss huh?
Or because that dominant one wants to dominate someone else.

What is troubling is when children are involved and they never really learn how to really love and be safe and honest with a real sense of security. Those children can either be passive or can grow angry and be agresssive.

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