Hi LittleForgetMeNot. I like your name.

I'm new here, and really, new to the concept of these forums altogether. So I hope you'll forgive any faux pas I may make.

I am interested in your story, and can relate to a lot of it. I'm wondering how old you are, and understand if you just don't care to share. My reason for asking is that I am 35, and just started dating somebody myself, and I'm finding it so hard to know how to be intimate. It just seems like this is stuff that people learn much earlier in life, and I didn't...

(I just did way to long of an introduction if you want a bit more info on me.)

I guess I'm wondering if you have talked to this guy about what you are experiencing. You expressed some concern that you might hurt him, and I wonder if talking to him about it might make it easier for both of you? It sounds like it's hard for you to express yourself in person, and I get that. (Writing stuff down helps me.)

I guess I have some more thoughts and questions, but being new here, it might be better to sit back a bit and observe the etiquette. I really appreciate and agree with what Perna said. I know that my therapist is encouraging me to sit back a bit and think less about what this person wants from me, and more about what I want--always a hard task for me...

Take care,
Sara