Hi Hazel Glitter.

I'm new here, and should probably sit back and observe etiquette more before jumping in, but here I am anyway. I hope you will forgive me any faux pas I may make...

I'm having a hard time developing in my head the right way to bring this up, so I guess I'll just say it to the best of my current ability. As I read your post, little red flags came up about your husband's behavioral patterns, which are consistent with abusive relationships. I don't know you. I know very little about the situation, and I won't pretend that I think I know what you should do. The answer is never as easy as it might seem to an outsider.

I might have waited to bring this up, but I don't know if anybody has ever expressed this concern to you. Sometimes it takes hearing it from another person...

I have more thoughts, but will wait to see if you are interested in receiving them.

Take care of yourself.

Sara