i'll answer part of your question, ben.........a T that is truly committed to help you has checks and balances and ways to work with you so that you are on the same page. they aren't there to chat and they aren't in it for the money. i'm older than you and i'm certain that i've been to more Ts than you have. i know you're a student, but i think it's a bit worse IRL than you are aware of. xoxox pat