Wow, Amandalouise, I sat here reading with my mouth open in astonishment. This is the kind of feedback I was looking for !!! I will be eternally grateful for your taking the time to explain this step by step process.

((appreciation hugs ))

Here are my coping tools, I want to share with you ......... I have had two years studying DBT, when I can remember to use these tools, they come in handy. I had 2 years using EMDR. Sometimes EMDR worked but mostly I flooded after the sessions, but the tapping works. I do picture journals now, not handwriting journals to identify daily emotions, due to flooding again. Listening to music can be very disturbing to me, not sure why. I have started attending area mental health support groups to help me reconnect with people again for support, to exchange ideas and feel like I fit in somewhere.

I just have not put all my tools together and honestly, I really don't have a clue where to begin and how to go about this. I don't see a trauma therapist and the therapist I am seeing is just there as a social worker, helping me with social programs, I see her every other month.

It sounds like you have an excellent grasp of how to elicit cooperation with parts and possibly help others to integration. You are correct, reducing anxiety is key to managing all these parts.

I think I need a sort of "road map" for all my parts to follow, but perhaps starting with one part at a time? I'm not totally sure what a road map will be, but perhaps maybe a form of structure? I don't know, scratching my head, lol. I really wish I could feel a switch coming on, that would be a happy day for me.

Thank you Amandalouise for taking the time to explain this process to me and understanding what I was trying to get to. You are a good listener