I'm so sorry you are going through this tough time. It is truly hard to have a friendship that close change so much. I went through such a transition with two girlfriends of mine this year. They had been friends for 15 years. I went through a horrible divorce and custody battle and they were "there" for me in some ways but eventually it appeared that they chose to spend more time with my ex-husband than me. Yes, I also cried a lot over this transition and loss of a close firendship. I didn't feel safe that I could share personal stuff without it getting back to my ex. I did reach out to them and share my feelings that I couldn't talk to them the way I used to giving examples of how I came to that conclusion. So much more to the story, but I don't want to go off too much here. I didn't close the door on the friendship but they are not in my inner circle anymore. Hope that helped a little.