Well I may have thought that initially as well somewhere deep inside, that he was trying to help our situation, but soon I found out it was only about himself, and how he perceived things.. His disclosure of how he really felt has come to light. We are in trouble now and betrayal was one of my first feelings, now I have anger, rage despair and don't know where we are gonna go from here, right now I hate him..I know these are strong emotions, however I feel so angry..I hate this feeling. The problem possibly may be that we all believe he has undiagnosed AS, and he regularly sees only from his view, and instead of seeing the truth of the situation, which according to my son was a feeling of no choice and being controlled by his father, my s/o instead felt that because I cried and did not hide my emotions( even though I tried) when my son came rushing out crying after the grad ..well he feels I ruined my kids grad and if my kid wanted to give my exs g/f a rose then it was his decision and I had no right to make him feel bad about it...which wasn't the case...My s/o did not ask anyone how they felt, he made an assumption on what he felt from his point of view as a dad that stuggles with his ex, concluded I did wrong , and acted on his own perspective. He advised he felt my son should have never accepted the rose back when my ex's g/f gave it back to him to give me...and also felt since my son gave her the flower initially, then it was her right to have a flower..and my guilting my son should not have changed the fact that he decided to give he the flower in the first place...UGH.,.that is WHY my s//o decided to give my son the flowers and tell him to give to her..he didn't even ask my kid how he felt about anything, nor did he ask in the second place when forcing him to again give her flowers one more time!! Instead now my son was forced once by his father, and then secondly by his almost step father to give flowers to a this woman when he only ever wanted to give them to me..my son and I are close...and that is how he tells me the story, I believe him. So when telling my s/o how I felt , and how I now feel betrayed, he just said, well Im entitled to my own opinion, and Im not asking you for yours, so thats just the way it is..I become livid..as he refuses to see that how he behaved was not a reflection of anyones feelings but his own, and then stomped off to his sisters for the remainder of the day...comes back today, I see him ask him f we can resolve it, and he again shuts his mouth closed and says well lets just get past this and go for a drive...which is always what he wants to do,.,pretend , avoid and dismiss...I get angry again, he takes off again...Im tired of it really..and now im so angry Im beside myself with where do I go from here...