Well, I came home and for a brief moment I wanted to see if there were other opinions on this topic. I would hope to think that I am not to only one with an opinion on the matter.

Well Tara, I have noticed that you have put your feelings here in a couple of places and the most impressive message you send is that you have recognized that something bad did happen and you chose one way of addressing it. You have openly admitted that the method you chose turned into another perceived problem.

But the two statements you have made are 1, you recognize that the direction you took did not really help and only brought further issues and 2, you are ready to learn what method you could learn that would be a better way to get to the place where you can experience a healthy satisfying relationship. So, in effect YOU are willing to think about doing the work to put YOU on a better path to enjoying life better.
And that is OK in my book as you have made a decision to try to move forward, in spite of your past. And I think that if you put your mind to it, you can acheive that.
And it will take you time to get to that goal but if you are willing to get direction and take the time to reconcile your past, you can move forward in a better direction.

I think that is true for all individuals if they are willing to learn. I think about the different labels and what that means, including mine and I think that it is just an obstacle to overcome. One can either punish themselves for the rest of their lives or knowing their possible limitations, work around those limitations to living a better life.

I still would like to see some other opinions or even questions. This could be an informative thread as we can consider different views.

And by the way I used the word Bonk because I didnt want this thread to turn into an over descriptive discussion about the act itself. I just wanted to address the concept of Dominant, passive, agressive, assertive and what that might really mean.

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