Hello Shezbut ~ I had a similar thing happen to me. My sister, who is sociopathic, contacted me in reference to our mother. I had been estranged for over 10 years. Just out of the blue. Anyway, she wanted something from me. She appeared like a lamb in sheeps clothing. She came to my home, took me to dinner, told me to forget the old times, all water under the bridge, all is forgiven, she loves me, etc, etc.etc. At the time I was warned not to get close, not to give her what she wanted and to be careful. I was soo overjoyed in hearing from her, I cast all caution to the wind. I let myself get sucked in and after she got what she wanted from me, she changed her phone number, her internet addy and told me to get lost. Haven't heard from her since and that was in 2004. Her last words to me were cruel and still ring in my mind. People don't change.
I can't begin to tell you how deep that hurt cut me. I am telling you this, just to proceed with caution, keep "your cards close to your vest" as Kenny Rogers would say. If you can have someone present if you meet with her, as a witness and a buffer, all the better.
Best of luck to you
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Originally Posted by shezbut
Thanks madisgram,
My sister and I are many miles away, fortunately. She's somewhere in Tx, and I'm up in Mn. We've sent a few notes back and forth via FB, including our phone numbers. My sis expected me to call her yesterday ~ but I was stuck in my rushing thoughts & emotions.
I'm afraid to call her...I can't really explain why. I'm afraid to get sucked up again! I know that I'm much more fragile than before. I don't have any safety nets below me. I've pushed my family away over the past few years, to finally obtain some sense of self. I am alone ~ other than my boyfriend and 2 daughters (half-time).
I am probably not making much sense. Sorry  .
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