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Oh I am so sorry, your husband should never have invited him into your lives to begin with. If this guy is an active alcoholic and drug abuser you need to shut him off because he will manipulate you and your husband more and more. These people seem nice but they are trouble and he is putting you and your husband on his patsy list. If your husband didn't take him into town to drop him off at an AA meeting than no rides any more.

I am all for rehabilitation but that should be done by professionals. And if this man is still drinking and abusing he will probably do other things too. Your husband is probably a nice man and he will be used. You have to sit him down and have a talk with him and tell him to let go of being responsible for this man. Hiring someone to do work is one thing but he is probably getting a ride to town to buy some alcohol or whatever with the money you and yours paid him. And you better lock your doors all the time now. If someone has a drug habit and no money, they wont care what way they support their habit.

You have to break contact. If the man is trying to change his ways good for him, but you cant be set up to be a victim. My husband has a good heart too and I finally got tired of other men calling here in the middle of the night because they couldn't stick with the AA program. Hearing a drunk on the other end of the phone demanding my husband get him out of where he was stuck due to drinking was it for me.

I hope you can get your husband to lay the boundary line firmly.

Open Eyes