So far some interesting posts and I think Michael explained himself well in the last post about dominant and submissive personalities. I think at 1st Open Eyes was getting the wrong impressive that dominance meant tyranny or someone was getting hurt..but we're talking about consensual relationships where this exists and they balance each other out. It's also not black and white ...there can be varying degrees and the roles can shift. It works best if they compliment each other.

To get back to the original post this is a very broad subject. I tend to believe most people's sexuality is determined in the womb, as well as societal influences. There's also the opinion that sexuality is fluid for some -meaning it can change over time and depending on circumstances....although this doesn't happen for everyone. Personally I've known from a young age I'm heterosexual. I'm probably one of the rare ones who've only had 1 partner - I met husband when I was 17. I don't think this makes me a sexual dummy and just because a person's experienced doesn't make them a good lover lol. I think I started out with a submissive personality, leaning to a more confident person who could lean to more dominant with some things.

Tara - I'm happy you're getting help for your addiction. You seem to know yourself well.

Open Eyes - I found your "bonking" reference humorous since you're usually so mild mannered in your posts lol. I took it to mean its a 'wham bam thank you maam' kind of statement. I think the kind of dominance Michael is referring to, is the kind where both partners are happy in this arrangement - for example...like a charming man who sweeps a woman off her feet.