There's no quick fix for your situation. It's going to take some time and planning. If you still aren't receiving your disability, you can't afford to get a job. It will mess everything up. What I did was go to the County and applied for General Relief. You only qualify for total Welfare if you have kids. However, General Relief gets you housing, medical and food stamps.

Something else I learned was that if someone doesn't want to change, they won't. Sounds like he's found his life in the computer. If he cares anything for you, there's a small chance that he might change but there has to be a crises of some kind.

Have you ever tried to leave him before? If not, it MIGHT work if he sees you calmly making plans to move out and on with your own life.

Good luck and best wishes.