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Originally Posted by franki_j
Thanks for the support guys!
Well, one thing I was thinking was that I know a lot of my issues with my weight and body image stem from my family, and especially my dad. And because I was home with my parents over vacation, some of those issues came up, but I didn't discuss them with my therapist, I just made it sound like everything was great when I was away (which for the most part it was).
But for example, my dad and I had a discussion and he told me, in all seriousness, that women shouldn't be allowed to vote. And I asked him if that included me, and he looked at me and said "No I don't think you should be allowed to vote." So of course this turned into a huge argument that ended with me crying hysterically (I am getting my MA right now, and it is really hard dealing with men who think you are an idiot).
You see, I think my dad beleives that women should just be pretty objects to look at and intelligence comes second. So obviously this has somthing to do do with my body issues, but I didn't want to bring it up because I didn't want to sound so dramatic or self-pitying, and I really do love my family a lot, and then I also think about some of the things that people are going thru that are a lot worse problems than mine, and I feel like my dad telling me that isn't really bad at all compared to other people's problems, and then I feel like I am fishing for sympathy from her. But I guess I should probably say something, right? I mean, what do you guys think?
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Yeah, right, I guess you should tell that

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I totally identified with all the reasons you wrote for not telling- not sounding dramatic, self-pitying, loving your family, other people having it worse, and not fishing for sympathy. But that's with my issues.

Reading what you wrote about your Dad from an outside perspective, that sounds like an obvious, important thing to tell your therapist about, even though I understand it feels awkward.