The thing is I guess something has to happen to me befor he wakes up. We aren't married. The thing is he can't live by himself bescouse of is menal illness. The money thing is unreal ,He has to spend everything on things we don't need. We tried a T . but nothing worked on that eather. He is so lazy it is unreal, I can't do the things I want to do it has to be him frist and thats it. I don't feel like I did in 00 , Things aren't the it should be they are from it. He doesn't even listen to me,He doen't care on what I have to say or even think. All he sees is him and thats all. I Have tried till I am blue in face on everything, NOTHING WORK ON HIM. It goes in one ear and out the other. The stress for me increases ,He just wants to do want he wants to do, What about other things in his life? I'm at a point where I should gave up.I have tried every angle to save this,now i'm frustrated to the point of no return,Everytime I told to his doctor and everything it doesn't do me any good.I wish things were back to the way they were for me, I could do want I wanted,not confine to home all the time,I realy can't do anything except get things done that he needs and come right home.He has so many medical, menal problems, which makes it harder for me.With his health he doesn't even care what the doctors are telling him on his medical .How can a person live this way?, Would you be happy in it? I could talk about this till I'm blue,It isn't changing how I feel.I wish my mother were stiil here,Loosing her last year didn't help any.Everyone is probly getting tried of this post. This might be the last post I make I this on this subject. Thanks for all the replies on this Most of the things that been said we already tried.