I have seen tons of threads about when to tell a new person...particularly a new relationship...that you have BP. I never paid attention, because I have never really cared. Now I'm in a situation that requires me to revisit this subject.

My original plan was to build empathy for mental illness as a whole. Then once I know I created a case and opened his mind, drop the bomb.

However, the longer I wait, the more deceitful I will seem. So the question is when? and probably more importantly, how?

If I make it seem like a big deal, then he will think it is. And is it? I'm quite wonderful and fine now.

His ex was anorexic, so I fear he will be like, I don't do crazy women anymore.

I know there is really no magic answer here, but maybe you guys could share positive and negative experiences...