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Originally Posted by objtrbit
hiya;
the first time I encounterd Jealousy in therapy was when I was in the waiting area for therapy, and my T spent longer with a client, it rolled into my time. At the time I just felt overwhelmed-I got kinda struck sometimes even with the idea that my T had other clients, which also used to make me feel ashamed (feeling ashamed for wishing I was the only client). So that feeling of being overwhelmed...I think it snowballs when you know you're upset but don't feel like you are "allowed" to be, (maybe that patient needed the extra time inorder to gather themselves together or something = so "I can't be angry" type of thing). Even then I didn't even know I was angry. I didn't even realize I had the option of telling my T that I felt something-upset-in some way.
-kayo
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I think this is such a great point and why CBT isn't always the greatest thing for everyone - it doesn't allow you to feel the feeling, explore the thought - instead you have to challenge it change it, when maybe it is just being interested in it that's important - not judging it, just being with it (have been learning some Mindfulness based CBT) - always easier said than done of course - me? I much prefer the theory stuff :-) but know actually that isn't going to get me anywhere - oh to be brave and let go off those defences - what is that really about for me...?