I just want to add that it SHOULD be okay to talk about your relationship with your T with her. It shouldn't be something you need to hide. I also feel that my T doesn't want to hear about it because she's redirecting me too, but that's not true. Your feelings about your T are important and can and should be discussed when you need to. It's just that we have to keep focused on US, not THEM. It's hard, and sometimes seems impossible. But, like sunrise said in my thread, we can have an intimate relationship with our T even when it's about us and our problems. It's hard because what we feel for our T may have its roots in something from childhood, so we tend to want to keep it in the present, with HER. It seems like it's about my T, not about my past. She's more real to me.