Whenever my husband is tired or upset (normally it's that he's annoyed with his family), he becomes very quiet and short with me. He is prone to snapping at me. This mood of his is very difficult for me as I'm highly insecure and have a hard time believing that it's not my fault, that he doesn't hate me, etc.

I've worked up the courage to tell him that I don't appreciate when he does this to me and he says that he'll try to control his tongue, but it still happens occasionally and, unless I bring it up later, he never apologizes on his own which makes me feel like maybe he doesn't care (although, I know this isn't true.)

I'm not really sure how to feel or how to treat this situation. I'm not sure what the "normal" response would be, as I can only see it from an insecure standpoint. Nobody is perfect, so should I try to just focus on the fact that he's trying and accept that everybody slips up sometimes?

Any perspective or advice is greatly appreciated!