Sad99,
Well I am glad you have thought about it. We often pick things up from our parents relationships and even your own relationship with your father could be in what you feel now. He probably didn't give you much praise and affection either. So as you have mentioned what you grew up in is what feels comfortable, not that it was, but it was what you knew and somehow unknowingly accepted.

But you have a different man that is better than your father, and because of this you somehow feel underserving, you didn't have an example of this in your life before. It is only natural to wonder if you deserve it. But you have to get beyond that because, gee would you really want the same relationship as your parents. The whole idea is to grow into yourself and make the choice to do better than your parents did. There is also a generation difference you now have the opportunity to understand that old traditions are just that, old and obseleet.

The purpose of getting therapy is to help you recognize that you don't have to continue to put yourself down, this really nice guy loves you, he married you, enjoy him and accept that you got a good man.

Open Eyes