You talk about "where we are in our life right now". . . look a bit further down the road and describe to yourself where you want to be? When driving a car one has to look a bit ahead of one's self, not right in front of the car as the speed at which one is driving makes it too hard to "keep up". Look further out in your life, say 5 years.

Will you have the same job? Will you live the same place? What factors of your life will be different? Can you concentrate and work on some other aspect of your life at the moment besides your relationship? Find a counselor or visiting nurse or someone to help you with your seizures (if you do not want your bf to)?

I don't know the specifics of why you do not feel he and his love cannot work for you. Are you sure that you or he are caring that much more than the other or could it just be your perception from a weak place in your life at the moment? Have the two of you tried couples counseling, gotten a third person's view of the relationship and its problems?