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A family member is threatening to make a decision that will hurt her and many others around her, including me.
I am struggling with the stress of what she might do and trying to figure out what I should do.
Assuming she intends to go through with her planned action, I can fight her by taking her to court. This would most probably have some ugly side effects, as she would retaliate. It may even backfire and the courts may decide to do something that neither of us wants.
I could also try to just go along with her plan, stay in her relatively good graces, and hope she realizes the error of her ways. Honestly, I think if she goes ahead with her plan, it won't be long until it will be painfully obvious to her that she has made a mistake. The problem with this option is that it hurts innocent others too, as least for a time. Even so, with this option, I will still have some opportunityto influence the situation and perhaps help the innocent ones.
I do not want to enable this relative. I do not want to rescue her from her own decisions. I do want to rescue her unintended victims though.
I hate this. I hate being unable to help those I love. I hate seeing so clearly what others struggles are, knowing that mine are much harder for me to see. I hate not being trusted by this relative. She is so scared and so angry. She is lying to herself and denying the truth of the situation to make it seem like it will be OK. It won't be OK.
Can I just allow this to happen and not stop it?
I hate being human and flawed. UGH!
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