Thanks Rohag - well to start with I would practically need pages to explain the drama and manipulation which goes on with some of the family members on my husbands side. I also don't want to make my own family perfect either because my brothers funeral(one who committed suicide) was a fiasco too and I did a thread a few yrs ago on that one.

Where do I start. The oldest sister is from Australia and has been bitter enemies with my husband for a few years. She sent him a seething email when his mother died a year and a half ago and she wasn't able to come for that funeral. My husband was told not to come to her funeral, because that was his mom's one last way to alienate and hurt my husband. The older sister is very dramatic and can be mean but she apologized and he accepted.

So the yesterday morning my husband said she tends to get epileptic seizures and this is new. I had my doubts and was kind of expecting drama. I still don't know if she really has it because it only happens when she's stressed. This was a Muslim funeral and there are many good points to their traditions - for example burial should be within 24 hrs unless for legitmate reasons...which in this case there was. Mourners are advised to mourn for 3 days and then try to resume normal life. There's no embalming done, which if anyone knows what embalming entails...this is a good thing...less meddling with the body the better for me IMO. Mourners are advised it's fine to cry but NOT to wail, scream or make a spectacle of yourself - its actually considered a sin because it disrespects the dead person and draws attention from the mourners.

At the mosque before I got there, the sister already went through one attack and an ambulance was called - she wad okay and they left. They had the service and proceeded to the graveyard. After the regular mourners left just immediate family were there. She began to recite the prayers and this took a good 40 min - this isn't required but just her choice. She was also crying at the grave of her mother next to his and went so far as to put her face in the dirt and appeared to sniff it. A few minutes later she layed on the ground and the brothers/sisters all thought she was having a epileptic seizure. It appeared like she was hyper ventilating and they held her for 20 min - debating whether to call an ambulance. When someone was going to call an ambulance she opened her eyes. The whole thing was shocking and IMO should have been avoided. My kids were there and as well as other kids. I prepared my girls ahead of time to not get upset if someone start getting upset beyond normal - I sensed something like this would happen. I can't help but feel this sister just rallies in this attention. I also believe you don't have to become overly dramatic to prove your grief. This was more traumatic than the funeral itself.