I told t about a friend of mine who found out she has a serious illness recently. I think a lot of therapists would just empathize and be supportive. He asked me why I didn't tell her I'm sad and pushed me to tell her that. It's probably good advice, so I don't mind, especially in this situation. It's just that with practically anything I talk about he's not unlikely to come back with pointed questions or advice like that.

Would you guys feel like your t was telling you you were doing something wrong if they did that? Does your t do that much?

I suppose I wanted a t who does that some. But it's hard to imagine feeling okay to chat openly with him like I would with a friend knowing that he does that. Maybe you're just not supposed to be that comfortable in therapy?