The thing also is that love can be there between your kids & your husband & you can be civil to him.....but what is it really teaching your kids about what marriage is really about? I know that my messed up marriage that I stayed together for all our daughter's life with us left her with a completely dysfunctional idea of what marriage is all about & she has chosen so far NOT to get married even though she really loves kids & would have loved to have kids of her own. In my case, I was not able to keep myself from fighting with him over the things that we disagreed with.....but then, it was mostly everything, so it was hard to keep quiet. Only when I could get myself into tolerate mode was there any quietness in the living conditions. I think with all our dysfunctional marriages of our age, it's no wonder that the younger generations are having such a even worse time with marriage relationships because they don't have any good examples to follow