Hello, jadedmoonbeam. Is there a safe shelter in your area? Talking to someone there about your situation might be beneficial. If you are worried about getting your possessions out of his home and the division of any joint debts, you might see if you can find a domestic relations attorney who gives a free initial consultation. Many times the unwary get a lot of debt dumped on them, especially since he seems interested in moving out of state.

A safety plan is a good idea. http://psychcentral.com/lib/2006/ste...stic-violence/
http://www.thehotline.org/