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Jul 08, 2011, 08:16 AM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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Hi Kar ~ First, I think it's horrible for family members to 'make fun' of you, and make you the butt of their jokes just because you had a girlfriend. I don't see anything 'funny" about it. It's a perfectly normal thing!!! Some understanding would have been nice especially when she broke up with you!
I'm not sure you 'fell in love with a book character.' It's probably more like you fell in love with the idea of being in love. The movie just put a face on it.
You're a very intelligent and mature young man. These feelings can be difficult -- and being a teenager is extremely difficult because our family usually treats us younger than we are -- or else they pooh-pooh our feelings, just telling us "it's part of growing up." Well, they need to be more understanding and aware that teenagers are often miserable -- our emotions are all over the place, plus we're learning about love for the first time, and that in itself can be difficult. Parents need to remember what it was like when THEY were young!!! 
I'm sure you'll get thru this ok -- but be prepared because you'll probably feel like this many times. We often have an idealized vision of love, and it's not always like that. It can be difficult and painful -- but it can be awesome too!  I must say that it's a learning experience!
Take care & best of luck. Hugs, Lee
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