I do wonder if seeking a better life is part of the problem. What if your life is good right now? What if it's the best it can be right at this moment? What if you are good enough right now, just as you are?

Would that sabotage a desire to change or open the door for acceptance, gratitude and love right now?

Don't know.

Someone a whole lot smarter than me said "You can't solve a problem with same mind that created it." or something like that.

If that's the case, then perhaps a new mind is in order.