Hi Hazel,

I'm sorry you have to deal with such a tough situation. I noticed at the end you said you've tried talking to your husband about his behavior and he sweetens it up. Have you "called him out" right as he is making a comment or doing something you don't like? Catch him in the act maybe, rather than waiting until later to talk to him about it. Maybe that will open his eyes a little more. I feel like communication is the most important thing for a relationship to be successful, telling him how you feel is vital. And I wish I could give you more advice about your ex, but I'm not sure there is a right or wrong thing to do, you know? If I were in your situation.. I would start telling [husband] about his behavior right away and that it really gets to me and that it has to change because I don't know how to deal with it. If it changes, then hopefully things will get better. If it doesn't change/ gets worse and I become more unhappy, I might consider a separation, trial or permanent. But like I said, I really don't think there is a right or wrong decision in this one, you have to think about how to make you and your children happy.

All the best,
Jenna