Since I began therapy my T said we could work on couples issues with my H and me. I've never wanted to do that for a few reasons. One is that I hate to share my T with anyone, and I know the attention won't be just on me. The child part says that! But, I've been doing some changing I guess, and after last session, thought (the adult parts) that I really, really need to work on my marriage. Therapy is about me and other people, not about my T and me. Gulp. Did I really write that? It hurts a lot to have to believe and admit that, but I feel like my T is there for me and always will be, so it's okay.

My H is willing to go with me. It's going to open a can of worms, though. My T knows my issues with my H but I imagine she'll let him talk and I will want to interrupt. We went a few times to my former T and it was helpful but I did feel like I missed the time alone with her.

My current T suggested that I have another session just with her, but I can't go twice/week.

So, how does it work out if you go with your H or SO to therapy? Please don't suggest a different T; I'm not going to do that. I also have to admit that I'm curious to see how my T will relate to my H and me together. I know she sees couples and families. Social workers usually do that.